Sexfinder Dating Site Review


Do you even have to ask what is all about? Casual dating, finding flings, hooking up, online chat and your best bet to meet swingers, promiscuous housewives and open relationship couples. SexFinder puts all these possibilities at your fingertips, and with over 30 million members, you ought to be excited about your chances.

Registration immediately hit me w/ the membership cost information as soon as I activated my account. I was ready to close the page, but the “You Will Get Laid” guarantee caught my eye. They guarantee that you will get laid within three months if you follow their “simple” rules. Saying it’s simple and actually making it simple are two different things, so I was somewhat skeptical. The first couple of steps were pretty basic. All you had to do was maintain a gold membership for 3 months, log in at least once a month, send at least 3 emails a month, and create one blog or group post each month. There is a catch 22 though. Men have their pride, an image to uphold. If you don’t get laid, then you are supposed to reveal that to SexFinder’s customer service. I imagine a lot of men being reluctant to tell anyone that they were not successful at getting laid and be labeled a loser. It’s such an ingenious plan. In the event you do tell them that you didn’t get laid, then you get another 3 months for free. Keep in mind that’s it’s a one-time deal.


In addition to the membership cost, there are other add-on features such as sending messages, friend request, viewing your profile, highlighting your profile, and adult movies on demand. Below is a table of the cost of the add-on features.

  • Standard Contact (Messaging First, Friend Request, View Profile)
  • Highlight Your Profile

As you can see adding all those features can get expensive. Too bad they don’t have a bundle plan like Comcast‘s triple play. I think more people would be willing to take on other features if they know that they are getting a deal. Committing to 12 months may be the best route to go. Just remember to cancel your membership when you are done with the site or else you will be facing some unwanted charges.

Payment Options: There are four types of payment methods: credit card, money order, electronic check, and credit card by mail or fax. I think your best bet is to pay through credit card. This way you can report any fraudulent charges in the event that someone gets a hold of your information. Naturally you are probably wondering what all this membership buys you. The table below list what types of features you get as a standard and gold member.

Membership Features

  • Chat on IM & Chatrooms
  • Hotlist Others
  • Like Photos & Videos
  • Join Blogs & Groups
  • Watch Live Member Cams
  • Send Messages
  • Send Flirts
  • Send Friend Requests
  • Read Complete Profiles
  • Watch Hot Videos
  • View Full Size Photos
  • Comment on Photos & Videos
  • Receive Priority Customer Services

It’s a good idea to upgrade to Gold Membership, otherwise I’d say you are basically wasting your time. It sort of equates to being the guy at the strip club that sits in the back and never tips the stripper, in which case this would be right up your alley. But are you really taking advantage of the opportunity with that mindset? Fortunately, there is another option that you can adopt if you don’t want to upgrade and pay.

Member Points
Every time you log into SexFinder, you are allotted 25 points. This sounds great initially until they tell you that it’s only 25 points a day. Plus, to get anything that is worth getting for free requires a lot of patience. You can accumulate more points by referrals, group post, and other miscellaneous ways. If a friend registers, you get 100 points. You get additional 1900 points if they upgrade too. When you create a group post you get 30 points (300 point max). Commenting on a group post will get you 10 points (300 point max). Posting a comment anywhere will gain you 2 points (1000 points max). Reading emails with flowers will earn you with 25 points. Below is a list of things you do with your accumulation of points.

  • Comment on a Blog Post
  • Vote on Replies to Questions
  • Vote on Writer Articles
  • Vote on an Article
  • Create a Blog Post
  • Add an Article
  • Reply to the Author of the Article
  • Reply to Questions
  • Send Virtual Flowers
  • Upload a Photo
  • Upload a Video
  • View Profiles on Demand
  • Receive “Email is Read” Alerts
  • Email Any Member
  • Confirm your ID
  • Highlight Your Profile for a Month
  • Private Chat Room (1 month)
  • Silver Membership Upgrade (1 month)
  • Gold Membership Upgrade (1 month)
  • Purchase Bling Icons

Technically you can go free for a little while until you reach the maximum points allowed, but why waste your time. I say just pay up and you won’t have to play these games because in the end the bottom line is they want you to upgrade and enjoy all the features they have.


SexFinder has a slew of features, many of which you won’t come across on other sites. Don’t be surprised if you are overwhelmed when you log in. Once you get past the upgrade page, they drop you on the home page where you get to see who’s online, new matches, members near you, and VIPs. I enjoyed this feature immensely. It was a fantastic way for me to save time and focus on the members that I could impact on right away. It was only a matter of time before they threw me a curve ball. When you are searching for members, you are not allowed to filter by race, body type, sexual orientation, and marital status. You have to upgrade to access those features. What a bummer! I got frustrated and decided to just click on the next hot model’s profile I saw. I chose Deezthighsdoe’s profile. Again, you had to upgrade. No surprise there. What did surprise me was that they added a new offer where you pay $2.95 for 30 days to view that particular member’s profile. At first glance it seems like a great offer because it’s practically free. However after some thought, your logic and value conscious mind kicks in; you will probably feel ripped off. Why not just pay $29.95 a month and view all the member profiles. If you search around and click on several member profiles you will eventually get an offer of $19.95 for just the first month. It’s supposed to be for first-time customers only. With great offers like that, I can see why so many people can get easily hooked.

Becoming a Top Fan

One of the things that can get hooked on the site is becoming a top Fan of your favorite member. This feature is like becoming a Twitter follower of your favorite celebrity, except it’s with members. You never know, some of these members might be famous. Some of the benefits of being a top Fan is viewing their profile for free (only top 10 Fans can do this), contacting them for free (only #1 Fan can do this), get notifications with a special badge, and appear on their activity and profile page (more visibility). Just be aware that becoming a fan doesn’t come cheap and will cost you money. It’s based on a points system that you can bid on to become the members’ Fan. The member’s page will list the top 10 Fans along w/ their bids. The top 3 Fans get their profile shown. Obviously you will have to bid more to be in the top 10 Fans for the hot members. Personally I would go with the okay to decent looking women. I think you will get more bang for your buck. With this route you can become a top Fan of more than one member without breaking the bank. Here is a break-down of what it cost for points.

    Cost of Points
  • 5000 points - $40
  • 4000 points - $34
  • 3000 points - $27
  • 2000 points - $19
  • 1000 points - $10

As you can see becoming a fan may get pricey. There are other things you can do within the SexFinder community without breaking the bank. The majority of my time was spent on the member activity and current contest section, which I recommend since, at least for me, it goes a long way towards getting in with the community and eventually meeting up.

Member Activity

In the member’s activity section, there is plethora of pictures and videos that go on and on thanks to the millions of members. All you have to do is click on the view more button and older postings will appear. The format is similar to Facebook, except SexFinder is more “interesting”. In other words, someone, somewhere is having sex or getting naked and posting it for the community to see. You can make Comments or Like the pictures and videos. There are so many comments that I picked up new sex lingo I wasn’t privy to before. You just have to copy the comment into urbandictionary. Overall, I’ve enjoyed the postings and comments quite a bit, except for the part where I have to manually refresh the page for new postings. Hopefully they will do something about this in the near future.


I also spent a lot of time in the Contest section. Their contest ideas are fun and playful. It definitely got my attention and I’m certain it will get yours. The contest that was going on at the time was called “On/Off”. Essentially members showed side by side pictures of themselves: one picture with some clothes and the other without clothes. I have to say there were some sexy photos. I was glued to this area for a while. I also enjoyed the “Sexy Superheros & Villainous Vixens” contest. Some of the members went all out. That was certainly a treat.

Sex Academy

The Sex Academy also caught my eye. I was curious of what type of courses were offered. I read and watched the video on “Erotic Massage for Couples” because it was free. After you read the material and watch the erotic videos, you then have to take a quiz in order to get certified for that particular class. The content is very detailed and helpful. I enjoyed the pictures and videos immensely, especially since there were naked women. I can see the certification as being a pleasant surprise for your next potential sex partner. You can apply some of the new attained knowledge and have increased confidence overall.

Hot Members

Another area of interest that piqued my curiosity was the “what’s hot” section. The hottest photos, videos, albums, member, top fans, and adult movies reside here. Not everyone was hot, but “hottest” is subjective. From reviewing the different profiles it seems like the hottest members are the ones that get the most Likes. I spent a lot of time looking around. Fortunately, you are able to search for members by race. I appreciate this because it would be a tremendous waste of time if I have to sift through all the members. As a free member, you have the ability to Like and Comment on their profile page. Unfortunately that would be the extent of your interaction with them. Anything further requires your credit card. As a result of my Likes and Comments on member profiles, I had received quite a few emails. I was hoping that at least one of them came from one of the thick latina members from the “hot” section. Interestingly enough, the emails were from swinger couples wanting to hang out and get to know each other before really getting our feet wet. I’m open to the idea minus the husband or boyfriend. The line I drew was if he is okay with watching, then I would consider meeting. I guess I could become a paying member or if I really wanted to meet swingers I could hang out in the groups' area and read some of the postings from local swingers of where to meet. This way I didn’t really have to spend any money. If you are okay with just reading a post and not creating your own, then you need not upgrade. Otherwise you will need to upgrade to make your opinion known.

Bottom Line

After getting a chance to spend some time on here, I felt SexFinder could be my new venture or hobby. If you are one of those that like to spend countless hours on Facebook and or Twitter, then this site is for you. The vibe here is essentially community centric. You have the opportunity to immerse yourself into the different communities and culture. I don’t think you have to even necessarily hook up with anyone if you don’t want to. However, it’s nice to know that there is an insurance policy just in case you don’t get laid in the first three months. In addition, there are so many things to do like partaking in contest, looking up hot members, flirting with people from half a world way, becoming a Fan, broadcasting yourself, and watching adult movies on demand to mention a few. If you commit to the long term, then the cost is almost negligible. Just think of it as buying the cute girl at the bar a drink on a monthly basis, from your own home. If SexFinder was on Uber, I’d give it 5 stars!

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